I was wondering if it is possible to treat people like books? The first thing I realized is that there are significant lessons we can draw from reading to use it in dealing with people and relationship. I am listing some of the ideas that have resonance in dealing with people I find true about a book.
i) Never Judge a Person on Secondary Information
Just like books, never judge anyone based on your first impression (cover) or based on second-hand information. We tend to differ in our reading taste, and same might be true in case of people. We may like people others may not like, just like the books.
ii) Paying Full Attention and Put Effort into understanding them
Its just bookish version of "read them properly". Even with a person, there is good chance that you might miss out on important details or traits. Give them enough time before you make your mind up. Re-read if necessary, you won't regret it.
iii) Make Space for People You Find Interesting
Just the way you make space for books you like, make a place for people in your life if you find them fascinating, interesting, and happy. Create a collection of people you love and be around them. Kind of something similar to your wishlist and collection of your books.
iv) People Change
Ever read a story after a long time, and it was different than it was before irrespective that nothing has changed. The same thing may happen to people too. Over time we change, and others change too. So revisit the relationships you have in life. It's worth it to rearrange your favorite people same you do with your reading list.
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v) Don't Criticize People You Don't Know
You don't review the book you haven't read, do you? Same with people don't make an opinion about people you don't know or criticize them. It's for your sake trust me. As they say, don't criticize what you don't understand.
vi) Stay Away from Those who feed you negativity
Just like some books, some people are useless for you. They might even be counterproductive. Thus, stay away from people like that once you realize it distorts your vibes. Let go of them, just like the books you put in a box and donated.
There are more analogies and lessons we may derive to create a guide explaining how dealing people, the way we treat a book might be the key in some aspect of human relationships.
......and don't do the same with people.
i) Never Judge a Person on Secondary Information
Just like books, never judge anyone based on your first impression (cover) or based on second-hand information. We tend to differ in our reading taste, and same might be true in case of people. We may like people others may not like, just like the books.
ii) Paying Full Attention and Put Effort into understanding them
Its just bookish version of "read them properly". Even with a person, there is good chance that you might miss out on important details or traits. Give them enough time before you make your mind up. Re-read if necessary, you won't regret it.
iii) Make Space for People You Find Interesting
Just the way you make space for books you like, make a place for people in your life if you find them fascinating, interesting, and happy. Create a collection of people you love and be around them. Kind of something similar to your wishlist and collection of your books.
iv) People Change
Ever read a story after a long time, and it was different than it was before irrespective that nothing has changed. The same thing may happen to people too. Over time we change, and others change too. So revisit the relationships you have in life. It's worth it to rearrange your favorite people same you do with your reading list.
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v) Don't Criticize People You Don't Know
You don't review the book you haven't read, do you? Same with people don't make an opinion about people you don't know or criticize them. It's for your sake trust me. As they say, don't criticize what you don't understand.
vi) Stay Away from Those who feed you negativity
Just like some books, some people are useless for you. They might even be counterproductive. Thus, stay away from people like that once you realize it distorts your vibes. Let go of them, just like the books you put in a box and donated.
There are more analogies and lessons we may derive to create a guide explaining how dealing people, the way we treat a book might be the key in some aspect of human relationships.
......and don't do the same with people.
