Tuesday, August 8, 2017

We Know, but We don't care.

Most of us from Nepal share quite a few features; I am not writing to claim this I am different, as I too fall into the same category of citizens. I would like to discuss one of such feature which is frequently witnessed these days. I would like to name the feature as: "we know, but we don't care". There are so many instances which reflect our 'we know, but we don't care' feature. I would like to list of some of the most pertinent events, and instances that show how embodied is the feature with our way of life.

             i. Most of us agree that Dr. Govinda KC's demand for reform in medical education and health sector is a legit demand. We know this, but we don't care (at least most of us don't).

           ii. We know corruption is institutionalized in almost all sector and Nepal is somewhere in the top of the list of the most corrupt countries. We know, but we don't care.

         iii. Our political leaders have failed us more than once and in the most visible way of political betrayal. We know they are not fit to govern the country considering the experience (political trauma). We know, but we don't care. (If we did you'd have another batch of leaders by now).

        iv.   Kathmandu is getting more and more shitty and dangerous to live in. You might die early due to dust and pollution or immediately by falling into a pit on the road. We are going backward in terms of urban development. We know, but we don't care.

          v.  More than 1500 healthy youth migrate to middle east and Malaysia each day through TIA departure, and more than three dead bodies arrive in TIA arrival each day. We know our brothers and sisters are being exploited and abused abroad where they seek employment. We know, but we don't care.

        vi.   We pay the said amount and receive bad service from most of the service provider. The internet, the restaurant, the taxi, the school, the hospital and the list can go on for ever. Even after paying the quoted price we don't get proper or satisfactory service. We know, but we don't care.

      vii.  We are being taught by those who have been alleged of plagiarism and might not be qualified to teach. We know we deserve better regarding academic prospects. We know, but we don't care.

    viii.  Kathmandu has become one of the most expensive city to live in for no justifiable reason. We know, but we don't care.

        ix.  We pay ridiculously high vehicle tax, road tax, a lot of other taxes. The car is at times 8-10 times more expensive than in other countries without any justifiable reason. We know, but we don't care.

          x.   Often INGOs and foreign representatives are alleged for interfering with our internal matters. The allegation might be true, our priorities, after all, may not be our priorities. We know, but we don't care.

        xi.  Our religious sites, our culture, our identity, our language is diminishing. We see it in front of our eyes. We know, but we don't care.

      xii.   If our country isn't a failed country yet, with this pace, it soon will be. We are going nowhere this way. We know, but we don't care.

You and I can come up with other things to add to this list to help us conclude that "We know, but we don't care." It isn't a hard argument that I am trying to make. It's something seen everywhere, and it's really worrying.

But why don't we care? We know it right? Even after knowing everything, why don't we start caring about it? What's your reason for not caring about all sorts of wrongs that have become new normal in our country?

The closest figurative representation I can think of:

What we think:




What is going on:





Have you ever wondered why you don't care? Oh! I know there are people who do care. To those who do care, thank you so much you are the beacon of hope. To those who don't care, do you have any clue why???

Saturday, July 29, 2017

15 Spoken Word Poetry You Cannot Miss Out On.

I like poems and find solace in reading, writing, and listening to poems. It has been few years I've been regularly listening to spoken word poetry. When I tell people, I listen to spoken word poetry so may reply 'me too.' I thought it would be nice to share something I find good. Thus, I have made an attempt to list out some of the most powerful spoken art poetry I often end up listening to on Youtube. 

Disclaimer: 

i) The poems are not in any order of preference. 
ii) I have adhered to the idea of one artist one poem. Do listen to other poems by the same artist. 
iii) This post is work in progress as I might have missed out on some and might want to add other later. 
iv) This post includes all sort of poems from break-up poems to the one you could use in Greenpeace's protest rally. 

So here goes the list: 

1. Michael Lee: The Addict, a Magician



This guy is underrated on youtube. Do listen to his other poems as well, you'll love it.


2. Neil Hilborn: OCD



Probably you've already heard this one :) 


3. Dave McAlinden: If I was your God



I only know this one from the poet. One of my personal favorite. 

4. Hannah Johnson: I'm Still Really Glad I Broke up with You



Smooth :) 

5. Harry Baker: Dinosaur Love




World Champion of Spoken Word :) 


6. Phil Kaye: Repetition




Listen to all of his poem and his Tedx talk.


7. Shane Koyczan: Instruction for a bad Day 




He is very popular and once you'll listen to his poems you'll know why. He also has delivered awesome ted talk "blueprint for a breakthrough". 


8. Sarah Kay & Phil Kaye: When Love Arrives




One of the most popular poems by the duo. You have heard of this too....my guess!!


9. Sarah Kay: The Type




Listen to her other poems as well. She has been to Nepal couple of times to perform too.

10. Aranya Johar: A Brown Girl's Guide to Gender




Very Powerful. 

11. Suli Breaks: Why I Hate School But Love Education




Very Insightful, filled with wisdom :) 


12. Rafeef Ziadah: We Teach Life, Sir!




This is how poets reply to some of the questions...

13. Baz Luhrmann, Everybody's Free to Wear Sunscreen 




This is a commencement speech (originally) and one of the best you'll hear. 

14. Kunal Kapoor: Sold Bodies




Words and Message...

15. Prince Ea: Dear Future Generation: Sorry




The Greenpeace one ;) 


16: Nawaraj Subedi: मेरो देश हजमोला बनाउछ 




How can I miss one from home? Explains the situation 


17. Ujjwala Maharjan: काली




I saw this performance live when this was recorded. Impressive and powerful. 

These are some of the poems that came to my mind when I was writing this blog. Feel free to add your favorite in the comment. Also, listen to other poems by same artists. 

Happy Listening. 

Monday, July 24, 2017

When are you getting married?


Asking questions is often easy but answering them may not necessarily be so. If you are from Nepal and you are in your mid-twenties, it is "the question" most have faced. Being in my early thirties, I encounter this question more than often. "When are you getting married?" This million dollar question has been bothering me since a few years now.  I face this question almost everywhere I go.  What I do not understand is why is everyone so interested about someone else getting married?

Family members, the girl I'm dating, sisters and close friends asking the question is understandable but what I don't understand is why your next door neighbor, your high school friend you haven't met in years, your distant relative, colleagues at work are so much interested in your marriage? Is this a generic question you tend to ask as a protocol for those who are not married yet? Or are people genuinely interested? Or is it that when it comes to marriage, everyone turns to "that aunt" whose only job is to ask people about their marriage.

This is a kind of question you can't settle for a quick answer because they come up with follow up question and a bulk of wisdom on why you should get married. At some point they seem to know about you more than yourself. Now that you have a job, what else are you waiting for? Do you have a girl or what? I hope in a few years' time they'll even start asking you if you're straight. I haven't been particularly fond of when other people are getting married, so I find it weird that so many people have the urge to know or the urge to ask.

May be you have good faith when you come up to someone and ask when are you getting married, but really??? What difference is the answer going to make? If someone is getting married, they will let you know (if you made it to the invitee list) or now we have Facebook, you can stalk on anyone without them knowing. I think this question tends to make people irritated after a while and then you might get that sarcastic answers or the look that tells you to mind your own business.



But what's wrong in asking single people when they are getting married?

As far as my logic and experience can tell, most of the singles have no clue when they are getting married. It's just like you know someday you are going to marry but have no idea when that is going to happen.

Secondly, some single may not believe in sanctity or the necessity of marriage but I don't want to debate with you on this, yet. Some people just don't want to marry and that's the end of the story I guess. It's as simple as you love a particular flavor of ice cream. (I doubt this has any particular philosophical justification besides the mere fact that you like it).

Thirdly, some are trying to find a partner and them always asking is not going to help. Marriage is not like a birthday celebration where your presence is sufficient. Thus, to those who are looking for a marriageable partner, this question doesn't offer much solace.

Fourth, the most of the people who are of marriageable age know when it's time for marriage. It's just like peeing; the one in question is the one who knows the best time to get it done. There is no point in asking someone when he/she is going to use the restroom, is it? Sometimes you'll have to hold for a while even if you are desperate so that you'll find a proper place, just like finding the right person for marriage.

Finally, I think this is a question that you need to know when and how to ask and whom to ask. It not like a normal "hello?", "how have you been?" type of question. I think people need to understand that the question they are asking along with the "why they are asking that question."

We singles understand that you are concerned about us and care about us and want to see us all settled and happy. We appreciate the fact and are glad that we have you in our life. But asking when I am getting married is the last thing you want to ask me. I know it's about my marriage, but I am sure of the answer so stop fucking asking it.

I think people should limit this question to their children, someone they are in a relationship with, and someone whose wedding they are going to sponsor. I firmly believe this question needs to be excluded from the generic question you ask every single round.


And if you were here expecting answers, then I have no clue when I am getting married. I would have loved to tell you, but it's not Christmas which always comes around at the same time of the year. Anyone who is reading the blog, do a favor to us singles, stop asking this question, please.